Speed Dating Isn't What You Think

You probably feel a certain type of way when you hear the words “speed dating.” 

Maybe you’ve tried it before. 

Maybe you put it solidly in the Nope. I’m not that desperate. Never gonna happen category. 

Maybe you’re curious about what it’s like, but it feels intimidating and uncertain. 

Maybe you keep seeing our posts and feeling the nudge to sign up but just haven’t hit the button.

Maybe you’re like Nah, I’m good with the apps, thanks.

Wherever you are, speed dating is probably not what you think.

A Little Back Story

Let me tell you why I (Becky) am a part of Back to the Basics.

When I graduated from college and moved back to Colorado Springs, I was hit with the realization that for the first time in my entire life, I didn’t have a built in pool of peers from which to choose my friends. Up until that point, school had meant I was always surrounded by a group of like-minded people. When I graduated, suddenly that pool of easy connections was gone. I had to be intentional about meeting new people.

I was a single adult for nearly 10 years. I was available, and interested in meeting someone, but didn’t know where to do that. This was the early 2000’s, so dating apps weren’t as prolific as they are today. There were a few dating websites. I tried eHarmony’s free trial and a site called Christian Matchmaking. I chatted with people. I went on a handful of dates. I even attended one highly structured “speed dating” event put on by Focus on the Family, where I ended up already knowing almost all the guys there. (Colorado Springs’ social circles are weirdly very small.)

I met a lot of guys through mutual friends or social gatherings. I had a wide circle of friends, but didn’t date much. However, I very much wanted to be married. I just wished I could meet guys who were of a similar mindset.

That’s exactly what Back to the Basics is trying to cultivate, a safe and structured space to meet other like-minded individuals with no pressure or expectations. Based on my experience when I was single, as soon as I heard about Back to the Basics and saw Amy’s heart for connecting people, I knew I wanted to be a part of what she was doing.

Get Serious About Meeting People

There’s a high likelihood that all of the people who attend our events are wanting something more than a hookup. It’s probably a good assumption that they are looking for a life companion, not a one night stand. The connections you make may or may not lead to a long-term relationship, but it’s safe to assume that the people you meet at one of our events are also serious about meeting someone. Not desperate. But committed. Focused. Serious.

Don’t be intimidated by the idea that the conversations you have are expected to go anywhere. But just be open to the idea that they might. That’s what you’re getting from the Back to the Basics event. The potential for something wonderful to happen.

At our events, we take away the awkward part of having to approach a stranger. You show up with an open mind. We’ll connect you with people. You just have to be yourself. Regardless of how the night turns out, you will have practiced your social skills and built your confidence. 

And if the first time round doesn’t work out, try another event. It will be a whole new group of people. We can promise you, based on our observations, that those who come back for a second event come back more confident and self-assured, which, as we all know, is quite an attractive trait.

Why Should You Listen to Us?

Because ... real life experience. Between Amy and I, we've got nearly 50 years of navigating marriage. We’ve worked hard for those marriages and learned a thing or two along the way. We’re in no way experts, but we do know a little about what goes into a successful marriage. 

Amy has a college degree and worked in the professional world until she chose to be a stay at home mom for 22 years. She has a passion for helping single people find authentic connection, leading her to launch Back to the Basics, where she’s created more than 400 connections since August 2025. 

Becky is working towards her Masters in Counseling Psychology and, after years of her own personal therapy journey, has spent the last two years immersed in learning the ins and outs of understanding people and relational dynamics. She also loves helping people connect.